I pushed her to share what the real problem was and she finally told me that she felt she might be jealous of anyone who showed interest in me and ruin the night. Dreams have been described as dress rehearsals for real life, opportunities to gratify wishes, and a form of nocturnal therapy. I've written an article about the five wounds of infidelity. Have a happy new year. I truly respected and treasured him and didn’t think there was anyone out there any better. However, I would really advise you to take each step with a pinch of salt as both of you are now no longer starry-eyed teenagers who view the world through rose-tinted glasses. Not because someone must experience other relationships in order to greedily conclude, "this is the best person, so I want them". When someone comes into your life who allows you the opportunity to experience love, that is always a true gift. That's so sweet =). People no longer value things like loyalty and honor, let alone love. It has now been a year and we are blissfully happy, both in communication, strong mutual interests, and wild, hot sex. People no longer value things like loyalty and honor, let alone love. She was In her “blame herself/self-destruct” mode and said that she hoped I would find someone better for me. He called me about 13 years ago, both of us married at that time, just to talk and check in. We didn’t think we had a choice. In so many ways, she was a great partner, but her constant demands for me to prove that I loved her were endless. Some things are just meant to be. She was a delightful correspondent and we got our families together when we could. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. By continuing to use this site you consent to the use of cookies on your device as described in our cookie policy unless you have disabled them. But, I took a chance and went to see him. Many serious women that they met in those days that really wanted a relationship at that time, and today it is even worse since many women just want to go with different men all the time instead of just staying with only one man. What Goes on Beneath the Surface When Narcissists Get Angry, Dysphoria: The Dark Side of Bipolar Mania. Wow! She must be a quality soul, confident in her own worth. If anything, we have grown into this relationship as more mature people who recognize what is most important. Despite the big split, you’re still friends on social media. I've written over 190 articles for Psychology Today Internet Blogs over the past several years. You’re not over this person probably because they could never love you back the way you wanted them to, the way you needed them to. Hi Randi, I know that i just made this comment about ten days ago. I even heard of true-to-life stories of partners who got separated while being young and after so many many many years (50 years plus), they meet again and fell in love the second time around. Is it even possible to feel madly in love with someone after 5, 10, 20 years together? I hadn’t been back in so long, and the family there had long gone. But I knew how much she’d loved me when she told me that I needed to go where I belonged. Wow! Twelve may seem like a small number, but I believe it is a trend, and that we will see many more. The first is that they don’t have to start over. If you’ve been dumped by someone you still love or even if you’ve parted ways mutually, the relationship status changes overnight, but your feelings for your ex won’t be able to keep pace with it. Where are you in that process? My ex boyfriend from when I was 15 years old called me today. Not because someone must experience other relationships in order to greedily conclude, "this is the best person, so I want them". Women my age back then just wanted to be with different men all the time unfortunately, and never wanted to be with the same man all the time either. However, we both had other partners and I transferred to a different college. You didn't go for help when it began to deteriorate? I have never loved anyone like I love him. Wow!Thats amazing and make me feel excited too.I can completely feel what you feel though i didnt experienced that kind of situation yet.Did you ask him why he call you?The reason behind that after 20 years of being apart,then he still remember you??? For people between relationships, their searching may be driven by nostalgia, haunting feelings that they left a past relationship prematurely, or being reminded of a past love. Couples reunite at all ages, with the average age being in the mid to late 30s. ofcourse! Please be careful, after such a gap i would be very suprised if you are both not very different people to who you were at 15 years old. Because of this, your business with them will always seem unfinished. Her parents always told her she was crazy. You, too. For some women, it’s still the love that means the most and nothing else compares. Those times of stress must be met by two people who have each other’s backs and grow stronger and more dedicated to their relationship as it matures. “Hey, beautiful,” he said in that melodic voice I didn’t know how I could have forgotten. Now at my age finding love isn't easy at all, and even at my age of 66 it is very difficult meeting a good woman all over again. Even meeting after 20 years of long duration, you could be able to talk for 6 hours over phone non-stoppage. If you still feel that way by just talking to him, I think that it is very possible. I hope that this time it will already be for good, I mean no more separation between the two of you. I'll answer within your text. “On the spur of the moment, I just felt I had to go back home where I grew up. Now, with more time to evaluate, they realize how much they valued that relationship and realized they might have prematurely bolted. The most important reason that the relationship might work is because after years apart, their heart is still calling them back to that one person. I had given up hope of ever seeing him again and accepted being alone by choice. --Oh, I'm so sorry. So did our men. That is why dating was so very difficult for me, since i really would've committed to just the one which i really would've been very happy. Over time, I gave up pretty much everything to make her happy, but she just couldn’t get there. It was great fun, but I longed for more than a kind of oasis of intimacy and friendship. --How did they find the women who were like you in that same population? The first girl I met in college became a kind of quasi-romance; we had great sympathy for each other and a strong attraction and became occasional lovers. Every relationship goes through hard times, unexpected challenges, and damaging ruptures. That strategy is just plain stupid because there are over 3 billion potential partners for any heterosexual in the world, and you can't play the whole field. It has no ending time. --I agree. These two examples may sound like excerpts from romantic novels, but they are based on real people and real situations. I headed off to college and he signed up for the Navy, following the family history his dad and granddad had established. I pushed her so many times to get professionals involved, but she always found a reason not to go. The next morning she said she’d changed her mind, that she didn’t have a right to stop me from having a good time. Are you? I somehow felt responsible, like she would never make it if I wasn’t there to catch her each time she fell. Whether she is with me or not. We love how we both have changed and embrace it fully. But i will never And then that voice, still gentle and soft. However, we both had other partners and I transferred to a different college. They may be feeling unfulfilled or concerned that there might not be a possible future for their partnership. Take your time get to know him all over again and follow your heart. only regret is that we didn't have children together. Here's Why. What if fate is somehow intervening, and by some miraculous chance, that old lover might be feeling the same way? I got married to a man who I now know I was trying to replace my first love with. Keep us posted! In my 40 years of counseling couples, one phenomenon never fails to intrigue me. Love was very real back in the old days, and i really miss those days since i dated a lot of women at that time. i must say it can be true, but for me, i think he loves you and the feeling just went back when he remembers you. In the meantime, you should let a sleeping dog lie. We have had no contact all this time, and yet we have been on the phone for 6 hours since the first time he called me. Multiple affairs or a long time parallel relationship? Would it be possible to pick up where you left off and make the relationship last? Many of the people who return to old relationships are not just looking for a lost love. A lot depends on whether you can show him/her that what you offer is better. After 20 years of being apart amd living separate lives he still loves me like he did back then. It was a bad marriage and I ended up divorced and raising my daughter alone for 15 years. You keep in touch on social media. A new theory aims to make sense of it all. Thanks for the post. --Your wife didn't feel threatened? “I think when you have an extraordinarily close relationship very young, you bond in a way you never can with someone you meet later in life.” They say you never forget your first love. I also hope the both of you have enough in common and pasts that you both can live with. I hope that my x bf when I was 15 after 20 years will still love me and want me back lol. We never established a full relationship, but remained friends after we married other people and, faithful to our spouses, had many good years and kids. --I think that young women do want to make sure the person they settle down with is the right one, and that may take some exploration, but I have found them looking for exactly what you are talking about. Myth #4. I knew we had both changed physically and that it would be different for both of us. Were you? Not one bit. Rekindled relationships are no more likely to be magically successful, but they do have a few things going for them. "The third, and perhaps the I started laughing and crying at the same time. We had a long-distance affair for 2 years, then I left my wife and moved in with her. I held my breath as he came nearer. I have no idea what drove me. Blame western media, I guess. My questions are, by the necessity of time, rhetorical, but will hopefully serve the dual purpose of helping you to feel heard while opening up some thinking that might help. I guess that I just wanted to remember who I was when I still felt excited and hopeful about life and love. "The third, and perhaps the most important, is that they’ve now compared what they had to other relationships, and appreciate another chance to do it right.". But many do. --Some people did, and are still together. Oh yes i agree =). I asked her to go to my reunion with me but she said she couldn’t handle the people staring at her. By that time, we had fallen out of touch - she had broken off contact because she had heard I was no longer faithful to my wife, who had turned away from me years before as the marriage stagnated. They value sex, and it it is because people are encouraged to play the field. And i always was hoping to meet that one special woman that would've loved me for who i really was at that time. Hope it worked out. Blame western media, I guess. Speaking of old love, it certainly was so much easier finding love back then compared to today which now it is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. A year ago, both of us single, He found me on facebook and it took off like a rocket. I have never been this happy in all my life. Their love will make everything possible =). Catherine, a New York film editor told us, “My ex and I got back together after two years apart, but it was really just because we were both lonely. They just wanted to party a lot and get wasted since they just wanted to sleep around with different men all the time unfortunately. Sometimes they are really looking for the part of them who, at one time in their lives, were willing to risk loss for the joy of true connection. How do they distinguish that possibility from wishful thinking driven by current disappointing relationships? How wonderful for both of you. After 30 years, she divorced. They must find that important balance between security and challenge, and support each other’s need to keep their love of life within the relationship. The husband did not mind either? You could end up cheating your husband. If you go to my website and hit the icon for PT, you can find them all there by title. Please feel free to go to my website and hit the icon for PT. And that’s OK. Life can be stressful sometimes and you’d have to be superhuman to not let the ups and downs create doubt in your mind about whether the two of you still have it going on. Sure, she’d aged and gained a few pounds, but that incredible face and those beautiful eyes. It must be your destiny and the half of your heart. --That has held for that long a time. I met my husband when we were fourteen and grew up, with a lot of good therapy, off of each other, but stayed together for a lifetime. Women my age back then just wanted to be with different men all the time unfortunately, and never wanted to be with the same man all the time either. On visits, we partied together and had many deep talks, often winding up sleeping together. Clarify why you are telling this person that you still love them, and try to imagine how he or she will react. 4. See I'm in love with someone else now! Even the covid lockdown has been fine, we do not find it enervating at all, instead it is renewing and fresh to be together all the time. The most important reason that the relationship might work is because after years apart, their heart is still calling them back to that one person. We can bring those feelings back if we honor one another, even if it is for a short time. I feel so blessed and just utterly amazed as to what each day brings. if not, then it's not good to be involved with your x bf. Everything will work out just fine. My brother got married to his first love after 20+ years apart. --Only if relationships do not transform you. Can i still be in love after ten years apart - Answered by a verified Counselor We use cookies to give you the best possible experience on our website. Just as many people reunited after 10 years apart (which could still be in their twenties) as 40 years apart. I remembered that same walk and the great smile he willingly gave everyone he passed. --Not sure what times you are talking about. Why and how did they fall out of love anyway? It was the best desicion i have ever made. However, most "rekindlers" (as experts call them) are folks who get together after decades apart. She was a delightful correspondent and we got our families together when we could. Loving "full out" is always filled with the possibility of heartbreak. --How terribly sad. --Thank you so much for sharing. I burried my feelings for Mike (first love) for 17 years and pretended I didnt care any more. All the best! Many times, the years that were missed have left too large a gap and the fantasies of what could have been don’t match up with what actually happens. Even if you do 15 or more, that population is still tiny, and you can simply be very bad at picking partners to top that off. I don’t even know when I saw him coming. “I’d been struggling with Geri for a long time. Ironically, sex is decreasing, and guys are becoming less open to pursuing romantic experiences, and women still expect to get pursued (they tend to now only get pursued when they're drunk at a bar by some guy who only sees them as a sex object). In general, the dynamics between women and men is getting fucked up to the point where they are no longer the perfect strong team that they once were. My aunt and uncle were married for 68 years before he passed away, and you can see how certain women in those days were very committed to their men when they first met. So, do you think it's possible for love to last 20 years between 2 people who haven't had any contact? It is quite possible since I believe that there is really true LOVE between the two of you. If it ends up then this is not a love but flirting only. THen 3 months ago, he called me and layed everything on the line. I have no once stopped smiling since we started talking and my cheeks hurt. She contacted me out of the blue and we had a wonderful, explosively sexual reunion with lots of amazing talk about life, relationships, and our lost love. So much has happened to us both, but the love we once shared was only benefited by the sorrows and joys we hadn’t been able to share. Ask yourself what you hope to gain from saying this. People who haven’t seen each other in many months or years run into one another in places neither would have anticipated or expected. It was what our families expected of us, and we went along with their decision. Psychology Today © 2021 Sussex Publishers, LLC, The Continuing Stigma Around Medical Marijuana Use, Wolves Demonstrate Self-Awareness in Sniff Test, How Baby Boomers Maintain Their Sex Lives, Working Like a Machine? I finally got the nerve to go in. And when being touch again it would beat as much as before. It is always beautiful. It will be starting all over again. The question. In only the past few years, I have worked with 12 relationships that have started over again after months or even years apart. Guard your heart and take a chance if you feel like it, but bear in mind that he will be different as will you I think I froze, scared to turn around. Way too often, disappointments and disillusions can turn people into love cynics. That strategy is just plain stupid because there are over 3 billion potential partners for any heterosexual in the world, and you can't play the whole field. That is why dating was so very difficult for me, since i really would've committed to just the one which i really would've been very happy. Dr. Randi’s free advice e-newsletter, Heroic Love, shows you how to avoid the common pitfalls that keep people from finding and keeping romantic love. It is how intimate partners, who gave up on their relationship in the past, rekindle their love again later in life. They begin to feel that the cost of their relationship starts to outweigh the benefits and what drew them to it in the first place. We also had a daughter. I wonder how that went for you. I hope that you will meet in person again and start all over again.Goodluck...I hope you can share to us your latest update incase you and him will be in good terms for being together again. Was it what they thought you wanted as well? If you meet your ex all the time, there’s a big chance that you’ll end up falling in love with them, even if they’ve moved on. Give us updates of what will happen ok. Wow, i hope for loves' sake this works out! I'm talking about relationships where people love deeply and learn, but don't necessarily stay in them. The people who are doing the searching are sometimes currently in established relationships. Maybe they should have tried harder to overcome their disappointments and complaints. Go away!) As this is a matter of two hearts and heart is purest part of body. I know it took a long time to write. I normally wouldn’t have done anything to hurt her in any way, but I think I felt pushed away just one time too many. Not because I want to encourage money-grabbing but if it is unjust, this could come back to haunt you. Love was very real back in the old days, and i really miss those days since i dated a lot of women at that time. I do think you were close. They just wanted to party a lot and get wasted since they just wanted to sleep around with different men all the time unfortunately. If that sounds dramatic, all I can say is you weren’t there. This is the sign of true love, believe me. I watched, stunned by the feelings that washed over me. What’s the Best Way to Handle a Know-It-All? I know this will help others.-. If you think the settlement is not fair, I would urge you to look again at it if you can. This is the first story i've heard about being away for a long time yet still in love with each other. Even the covid lockdown has been fine, we do not find it enervating at all, instead it is renewing and fresh to be together all the time. --Yes. Or they are told of a prior love by mutual friends who tell them that prior lover is still interested. I don't think people should be encouraged to play the field. I know she didn’t mean it, but she was always telling me that I’d leave some day, sort of wanting me to talk her out of it. Even if you do 15 or more, that population is still tiny, and you can simply be very bad at picking partners to top that off. I wish love wasn't dying in our world, but I'm afraid it slowly is. But i will never give up. No, You Were Not Happier Way Back When. It was great fun, but I longed for more than a kind of oasis of intimacy and friendship. "The third, and perhaps the most important, is that they’ve now compared what they had to other relationships, and appreciate another chance to do it right.". I’d been in the same relationship with Peter for five years but it wasn’t going anywhere. I’ve known couples who found each other when they both joined the same dating site at the same time, not immediately realizing that they have known the person on the other end. "Where’ve you been?” I felt like my heart literally stopped beating. I didn’t lie. It had been 14 years since we parted. Peace. I'm considering a divorce. -- He said he wanted to meet our daughter and be with me no matter what. He left suddenly when I was 19 and broke my heart. Twenty years is not that long time for love to fade. Eventually, that leads you right back to the person who you trusted with your heart. Its true love I may say. Other members of my family lucked out as well, and you can see how very different women were in those days compared to today. Here is some information that has emerged from my many years of rekindled romance data collection, surveying participants 18 to 95 years old in 42 countries. No matter for how much years we are apart. It's amazing to know that my heart still pounds when I hear his voice and how much I still care about him. At other times, people are at a place in their lives where they are experiencing a significant life re-awakening. I was scared, still am in fact. Of course, not all rekindled loves turn out that way. I ended up putting our baby up for open adoption and trying the best I could to get over him and move on with my life. I had no way of contacting him and his family were horrid, and did not believe the baby was even his so they refused to help. We went to Iowa, Nebraska, Wyoming, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Oklahoma, and Missouri. I vowed to never let a man come into my life again because I had been so badly hurt by both my first, and every man after that. I hope that you will meet in person again and start all over again.Goodluck...I hope you can share to us your latest update incase you and him will be in good terms for being together again. When their prior relationship ended, they truly believed that they would never be together again, yet are now back and more in love than they were the first time around. I was happy for you because it seems you love him still, and you still care about him. So far, so good. Please feel free to browse. Actually you should have married this guy as he is also remembering you till date. My first love and I were together from when I was 15 to when I was 19. It is possible and goodluck. Was it the time? And I believe that sometimes there are cases where the love is just hiding from the deep side of our heart. Any other people I met became automatic enemies, even totally legitimate connections. We think alike and get along so well as we always did. I am so happy for you! Happy New Year and please stay safe, especially now. They value sex, and it it is because people are encouraged to play the field. Look for a woman who has been happily married and will always love her husband, even if he is gone or they are no longer together. They have been married for 7 years and have a DD together. And i really was the exception to the rule since i just wanted that one woman to be with all the time, instead of dating all the time. I felt so much nostalgia, so much affection for the beautiful elm trees lining the streets and the steeple of the church where I had my first communion. 3 weeks after he left, I found out I was pregnant with his baby. Having observed many of these rekindled relationships, I have learned that the past just doesn’t ever determine what options may lay ahead for partners who have left a past relationship behind. You didn’t feel it.” It doesn’t sound dramatic to me. Love is dying in today's world, and it's because people no longer respect it. relationship as more mature people who recognize what is most important. When that happens, you have to learn to be very direct about who you are and what you want and can give. Although we are a generation apart, at 18 I still reminisce those fourth grade memories of my first crush , not just my crush he was my first real best friend. Take care Dragonprincess. She told me over and over that it wasn’t my fault, but she was afraid of getting some real help for her continuous unhappiness. Thank you so much for your comment. Thank you so much for your insightful and compelling story. It has now been a year and we are blissfully happy, both in communication, strong mutual interests, and wild, hot sex. The third, and perhaps the most important, is that they’ve now compared what they had to other relationships, and appreciate another chance to do it right. --Finally, hopefully, recognizing what they had but did not realize they had. True Love never ends. It was not easy to end my relationship with Geri, but I knew I’d been trapped for a long time and had long ago stopped giving her a fraction of the care I did at the beginning. Getting back with an ex after years apart starts with your attitude and outlook In most cases it is possible to get back with an ex when you have a positive attitude and outlook. By that time, we had fallen out of touch - she had broken off contact because she had heard I was no longer faithful to my wife, who had turned away from me years before as the marriage stagnated. Know it is OK to still love them. Some of the remarkable stories I’ve heard are even more magical. I touched the bald spot on the back of my head and sucked in my stomach before I stood up and hugged her, and hugged her, and hugged her. The good thing is the feeling is mutual - you said ur heart still pounds and you still care for him - that's so cute. In general, the dynamics between women and men is getting fucked up to the point where they are no longer the perfect strong team that they once were. I suddenly remembered the entire experience and how terribly sad we were to leave each other. You smiled all the time. Don’t ask me why, but in the middle of the summer, I felt I had to go back, so I did. I guess I must have really loved her, because I never thought seriously about being with anyone else. I was sitting outside a restaurant I’d known my whole life, having a cherry Coke. Randi Gunther, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. I say, GO FOR IT, you will not regret. They were a defective toy that couldn’t be fixed at the shop. I’m home.”. Also, I am terrified of getting hurt again after being so safe and guarded for almost 2 decades. It was 23 years, I was 17 he was 18 and he went off to college. We got to the point where the sex was flat, and we were hardly communicating, but I just couldn’t leave her. What if some professional thought so, too? He was very much in love and carried a torch for her all those years. Thank you again for reaching out and sharing. There are many actions you can take that will help you move in a positive direction; allowing yourself to heal while shifting your mindset to one of recovery and peace. Why Romance Movies May Be a Social Problem, 6 Simple Steps to a Happy, Thriving Relationship, How a Celebrity Crush Can Impact Your (Real) Relationship. Was she surprised at the parting, or at the person you chose to be with? So go for it girl! --We also had a different view of what commitment was. 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